Forgive Your Family

Family is Forever

Family can do you wrong at times more than any friend or stranger. And this is found to be true in the story of Joseph and his brothers. Joseph was most loved by his father Jacob and rightly so, Joseph was the first son of his second wife Rachel, And you know how their story began, Jacob worked 7 years to make Rachel his wife and then her father Laban tricked Jacob by giving him her sister Leah, so he worked another 7 years to be with Rachel. Now see why Joseph was really loved, the woman Jacob loved gave him a son and at the time Jacob was far from being young. But his brothers didn’t see it that way, all they could see is Joseph being the favorite son. Gen. 37:3-4 Now Israel loved Joseph more than all his children, because he was the son of his old age: and he made him a coat of many colours. And when his brethren saw that their father loved him more than all his brethren, they could not speak peaceably unto him.
Not only was he daddy’s favorite, Joseph had dreams and going by his brother’s interpretations of those dreams it didn’t make the relationship between them any better. Gen. 37:5-11 And Joseph dreamed a dream, and he told it to his brethren: and they hated him yet the more. And he said unto them, Hear, I pray you, this dream which I have dreamed: For, behold, we were binding sheaves in the field, and lo, my sheaf arose, and also stood upright; and, behold, your sheaves stood round about, and made obeisance to my sheaf. And his brethren said to him, Shalt thou indeed reign over us? Or shalt thou indeed have dominion over us? And they hated him yet the more for his dreams, and for his words. And he dreamed yet another dream, and told it his brethren, and said, Behold, I have dreamed a dream more; and behold, the sun and the moon and the eleven stars made obeisance to me. And he told it to his father, and to his brethren: and his father rebuked him, and said unto him, What is this dream that thou hast dreamed? Shall I and thy mother and thy brethren indeed come to bow down ourselves to thee to the earth? And his brethren envied him; but his father observed the saying.
Joseph’s siblings conspire to kill him, but Reuben their older brother was against killing him, however, it was decided to throw him in a pit. Gen. 37; 21-22 And Reuben heard it, and he delivered him out of their hands; and said, Let us not kill him. And Reuben said unto them, Shed no blood, but cast him into this pit that is in the wilderness, and lay no hand upon him; that he might rid him out of their hands, to deliver him to his father again. Judah, another brother thought of the plan to sell him to the Ishmeelites who then sold him to Egypt. Gen. 37: 28, 36.
His siblings didn’t see it coming, but there would be a famine in the land of Canaan which would lead them to Egypt, where Joseph would eventually reveal his identity as their brother – reminding them he is the one they had thrown in the pit and then sold. The beautiful thing about all of this is he welcomed them back into his life with no malice in his heart and no thoughts of revenge. Gen. 45: 3-5 And Joseph said unto his brethren, I am Joseph; doth my father yet live? And his brethren could not answer him; for they were troubled at his presence. And Joseph said unto his brethren, Come near to me, I pray you. And they came near. And he said, I am Joseph your brother, whom ye sold into Egypt. Now therefore be not grieved, nor angry with yourselves, that ye sold me hither: for God did send me before you to preserve life.
Yes, indeed God had a plan. Gen. 45: 7 And God sent me before you to preserve you a posterity in the earth, and to save your lives by a great deliverance. Israel prospered, Gen. 45:18 And take your father and your households, and come unto me: and I will give you the good of the land of Egypt, and ye shall eat the fat of the land. Gen. 47:5-6, 11 And Pharaoh spake unto Joseph, saying, Thy father and thy brethren are come unto thee: The land of Egypt is before thee; in the best of the land make thy father and brethren to dwell; in the land of Goshen let them dwell: and if thou knowest any men of activity among them, then make them rulers over my cattle. And Joseph placed his father and his brethren, and gave them a possession in the land of Egypt, in the best of the land, in the land of Rameses, as Pharaoh had commanded.
Gen. 50:19-21 And Joseph said unto them, Fear not: for am I in the place of God? But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive. Now therefore fear ye not: I will nourish you, and your little ones. And he comforted them, and spake kindly unto them. Family may come up against you but God who has the master plan will deliver you, fight for you and turn it around for your good in the end for those who put their trust in him. Forgive your family. Forgive those who have wronged you. Remember we all need forgiveness and may the peace of God be with you.

Parents Obey God, Kids Obey Your Parents

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Did you do what I asked you to do? How many times did you hear that question growing up? How often have you asked your kids that same question? How many times have you did what God has asked you to do? Obedience is required, no excuses period. Parents I know you want the best for their kids from bringing them up in the right neighborhoods to wanted them to attend the best colleges. And expectations are pretty simple, do exactly what I tell you to do because I’m the parent and I know what is best for you. This is where it gets questionable, kids are being told what to do by their parents who are not doing what they are supposed to do according to the word of God, which was given by God and is truth.

We want our children to listen and obey and if they don’t there are consequences. That same principle applies to parents – to all those who are called the children of God. If you are not being obedient you are sinning. And the wages of sin is death. So as far as raising children and holding them accountable for their actions and behavior are you being the example and role model for them to follow? Is a majority of your time devoted to your career or hustle, and buying more and more stuff that by the way you can’t take with you when you die and it can’t get you into heaven, that there is no time left for God? With that being said, what are your children doing in the meantime and who are they listening to and spending time with.

Parents are always saying they want their kids to be the best they can be, I just hope that includes Jesus in their life. Who will show them what Jesus looks like and introduce them to God’s word? Kids normally do what they see. Therefore, you can’t be lukewarm and straddle the fence. You can’t be singing the praises of God at 7am and fussing and cussing people out on the phone and in your car by 8am. Shift your priorities to put God first and become doers of the word of God. Our kids need to see you in action doing the things of God, it gives them a visual and someone to emulate giving kids a pattern to follow.

Let me give you a great example of kids doing what they see their parents do and why it is not effective to say “do what I say.” Here it is, parents say always tell the truth. But they hear their parents lying to each other, to a friend, or a bill collector etc. Poor kids this can be so confusing, my parents are telling me not to do something that they do whenever it suits them. Ponder on this, how many excuses and apologies have you said before God to justify your actions and your kids do the same thing to you. We desire for our kids to get it right and God desires for us, his children to get it right. Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

The following are scriptures for the family:

Duet. 6:1-7

Eph. 6:4

Proverbs 22:6

Matthew 19:14

1John 5:21

Proverbs6:20-22

Exodus 20:12

Matthew 19:19

Eph. 6-1-3

You have birth them and now you are raising them, but they belong to God just as you do. We are God’s children. In Romans 8:16-17 KJV The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God: And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together. And 1 John 1:4 KJV I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.

To be children of God, let’s be like our Father in heaven. Here are additional scriptures to guide your family:

Fruit of the Spirit – Gal. 5:22-23, Eph 6:5:9

Beatitudes (specific behavioral standards) Matthew 5:3-12

The Lord’s Prayer – Matthew 6:9-13

The 10 commandments – Exodus 20:3-17

In the Old Testament the Israelites had done terrible things while wandering in the wilderness with Moses. Creating a golden calf and worshipping false gods. Joshua reminded them of what God had done for them, bringing them out of Egypt and providing for them and their ancestors. Joshua explained to them that it is better to serve the Lord than false idols. In the end he let them know who will be following God. If they want to continue worshipping their false gods go right ahead, but his family would be serving the Lord. And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house we will serve the Lord Joshua 24:15 KJV. Parents obey the Lord and serve him with your whole heart and in doing this, kids are obeying their parents, who are obeying their Father in heaven. I can’t imagine anything better than living in a household of faith, love, and obedience.

Be Blessed

Wives Are A Help Meet

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Wives who are trying to be there for their husbands and find it to be hard to do so, it might be because you think you know what’s best. No, no, no, we got to do things decent and in order. And the Lord God said, It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him Genesis 2:18. The word also tells us in 1Cor. 11:3, But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

I can imagine if God told our husband to build an ark, like he told Noah, we as women would have our own ideas about what size it should be, when and where it should be built, what size the windows should be (can we hang curtains) and who and what should go in the ark. Yes, as women feel the need to make sure our voices are heard. Look how God described Noah in Genesis 6:8-9 But Noah found grace in the eyes of the Lord. These are the generations of Noah: Noah was a just man and perfect in his generations, and Noah walked with God. I would say that Noah was highly favored in the sight of God and I’m sure his wife was a woman of faith. So, for the task that was before Noah he would need his help meet more than ever before. Maybe Noah’s wife understood the magnitude of the assignment given by God to her husband and she did what she needed to do so he could accomplish it.

Wives when you know your husband is about God’s business, trust your husband, give him space, encourage him and respect him. Be proud of your husband that he is being obedient to God just as Noah was during his time as told in Genesis 6:22 and 7:1, 5. God told Noah in Genesis 6:18 he will make a covenant with him, But with thee will I establish my covenant; and thou shalt come into the ark, thou, and thy sons, and thy wife, and thy sons’ wives with thee.  And because of Noah’s obedience in Genesis 9: 9-17 he fulfilled that covenant, And I, behold, I establish my covenant with you and with your seed after you; And with every living creature that is with you, of the fowl, of the cattle, and of every beast of the earth with you; from all that go out of the ark, to every beast of the earth. And I will establish my covenant with you; neither shall all flesh be cut off any more by the waters of a flood; neither shall there any more be a flood to destroy the earth. And God said, This is the token of the covenant which I make between me and you and every living creature that is with you, for perpetual generations: I do set my bow in the cloud, and it shall be for a token of a covenant between me and the earth. And it shall come to pass, when I bring a cloud over the earth, that the bow shall be seen in the cloud: And I will remember my covenant, which is between me and you and every living creature of all flesh; and the waters shall no more become a flood to destroy all flesh. And the bow shall be in the cloud; and I will look upon it, that I may remember the everlasting covenant between God and every living creature of all flesh that is upon the earth. And God said unto Noah, This is the token of the covenant, which I have establishes between me and all flesh that is upon the earth. Always remember when it is all finished, it all works out for your good. Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them, who are the called according to his purpose.

For me personally, I will be supportive of my God-fearing husband and trust in the God who blessed me with this wonderful man to begin with.

Dear Heavenly Father I pray that you strengthen our marriages and for each spouse to know their place in the marriage. Lord may each spouse seek a personal relationship with you so they may learn and grow as they come together as one and on one accord. God teach us your ways so that as wives we are more understanding of the responsibilities of the husband and be the help meet that you have called us to be. May our speech always be acceptable to you Lord that we will know what we should say and the right time to say it, when we need to just listen and also recognize those times when silence can be helpful too. God thank you for our spouse and may we love them the way you love us in the precious name of Jesus Amen.

 

 

 

 

7 THINGS TO HELP KIDS BE LIKE CHRIST


Train Up A Child

Kids want to be loved and have fun. So simple right? It should be simple because kids don’t come into the world with the mentality to plan to do evil. These behaviors are taught by people they know or have some form of interaction with daily or periodically. Maybe over hearing conversations from unknown individuals in passing. You may think you have it under control by limiting the number of hours in front of the television and on social media or playing with friends and tech toys, but unfortunately that is not enough. You see, on the other side of that door is a life filled with bad influences and temptations and the things that are not of God. But it’s not too late to train up your kids in the way they should go and create a change in the atmosphere one child at a time.

Let’s get started!!

PARENT PREPARATION

Proverbs 3:5 KJV Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

1Cor 3:19 KJV For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. For it is written, He taketh the wise in their own craftiness.

We need God’s wisdom and knowledge to help with our children and with all things.

Proverbs 2:6 KJV For the Lord giveth wisdom: out of the mouth cometh knowledge and understanding.

Proverbs 8:11 KJV For wisdom is better than rubies; and all the things that may be desired are not to be compared.

2Tim. 2:15 Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.

The word of God has to be in you, a part of who you are… parents obeying and applying the word of God. You are the first example of Christ for your kids.

(Below is a list of books and scriptures, but seek the word of God with your kids and find the ones suitable for them to understand.)

Ages 2-6

Bible Ages 2-6

Ages 4-8

Bible -Ages 4-8

Ages 4-8

Bible Ages 4-8

Ages 8-12

Bible-Ages 8-12

Ages 8-12

Bible Ages 8-12

Resource Bible for Kids

Resource Bible

7 THINGS TO HELP KIDS BE LIKE CHRIST

  1. Read the Bible with your kids – help children build strength and character.
  2. Love – Share with them that God is love. 1Cor.13:4, 1Cor. 16:14, and 1John4:19
  3. Pray – Teach them about talking to God and spending personal time with Him in prayer. Jeremiah 29:12
  4. Praise – Let God know you adore him and show your appreciation of who He is and all that He has done, is doing and will do. Psalm 135:1, Psalm 150:6, and Psalm 148:13
  5. Have Empathy – Teaching children to have empathy to put themselves in others shoes. Having compassion and understanding for others because you see things the way God sees them. Because someone is not like you or is less fortunate doesn’t make them not important in God’s eyes. So, try to understand what they may be going through by envisioning yourself in that situation. Col. 3:12 and 1Pet. 3:8
  6. Be Giving – Be ready to act, be a giver of time, money clothing, or food to help those in need. For example, do volunteer work in a food pantry. Prov. 11:25, Prov. 22:9, Acts 20:35, James 2:15-16, and Deut. 15:10
  7. Forgiveness – To understand that we all fall short and need forgiveness. If you want God to forgive you, you must be willing to forgive others. Ephesians 4:32 and Matthew 6:14

We want kids that go out in the world and in every situation before they act, they ask the question –

What Would Jesus Do?                  

 

 

 

 

 

 

West Coast, East Coast Siblings…. Meet for the First Time

My life has changed forever. My son met his half-sister and I met my step daughter for the first time Saturday. There were many tears of joy and plenty of smiles in between those tears. I didn’t know she existed until after my ex-husband has passed away, my son 5 years old at the time. An email was sent to my ex-husband’s nephew then forwarded to me right after his funeral. I had so many questions but the answers were in the grave. I will not lie; my first thought was she better be older than our son. Because a double blow of cheating and a child born from the act would have been too much for me to handle. But what could I have done, he was gone. In our entire marriage he never mentioned his daughter – 10 years older than our son, 36 and 26 respectively. I believed all that time that our son was his only child.

My son and his new-found sister communicated for a while – she on the West Coast and him on the East Coast, but it didn’t seem to bring them closer. Oh boy was I wrong – they have been communicating on and off on social media for years and I didn’t know it. Was I kept out of this entire situation from the beginning so God could work it out without my interference? Probably so. God knows I’m a fixer and I guess God didn’t need my help. This has turned out better than I could have ever imagine. And I know this because God was in control of it all, from 21 years ago until the super duper sibling introduction this weekend. I have to ask the question though, how can you not acknowledge your child? I still can’t come up with a good enough answer because I don’t believe there is one. No more secrets, no more wondering, she is family and I thank God for her. God does everything well and his timing is always perfect. Yessss, February 15, 2019 is a day that the Lord did make and I did rejoice and was glad in it!! And it will not be the last day that I will rejoice. Family is what we are and we will cherish it and embrace it for a lifetime. A sister and brother getting to know each and already making future plans to do things together. And as for me…. Ecstatic!!!